GET THE SEX YOU WANT

COMMUNICATE YOUR DESIRES

Getting what we want in bed isn't always easy. We don't want to hurt our lovers feelings by saying the wrong thing but we don't want to put up with poor technique either.  
Body language too, is not always easily read by even the most sensitive lovers. These tips will ensure that your lover is an expert in pleasuring you.

1. Always use positive reinforcement - be emphatic about the things your lover is doing right.

2. Just as you groan loudly and deliciously when things are going well, tone it down when things are going cold.

3. If you're really not enjoying your lovers ministrations, gently remove their hand/face/whatever and do it yourself with them watching.

4. If there's something you love and your lover has no idea, lead them - if you love your hair pulled, guide their hand there and squeeze.

5. If you like your bottom slapped, lean over and assume the bad girl/boy position.

6. Leave a lot of hints - hire a movie where the characters engage in the sort of play you like, encourage your partner to read the sort of erotica or watch the porn that you like.

7. Whatever you do, don't fake your orgasm or you'll never get what you want.

8. Make sex a regular part of conversation. Discuss articles and issues, talk about your body and it's responses, play erotic games - whatever - just make sexuality relevant to your lives.

9. Practice dirty talk. Start by complimenting your lover throughout the day on things you like about them. For example, 'Your arms look so sexy in that T-shirt', ' I love your arse',  'Watching your lips move when you eat that strawberry makes me really hot' - that kind of thing. 

10. Move on to sending texts about what turned you on when you were making love the night before. 'That thing you did with your tongue really tipped me over the edge', 'I came so hard last night I still can't concentrate', 'I can still taste you'. You'll soon establish the type of language that hits the spot. 

11. Once that's established, you'll have no trouble ramping it up in the bedroom in the heat of the moment - ' Your cock makes me so hot', 'I want to fuck you so hard', 'faster - harder'.......What sounds weird out of context can be the spark that ignites a firestorm in context.

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HOW TO TURN A WOMAN INTO A SMOKIN HEAP OF ECSTASY..

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1. PENIS THRUSTS

After you've pleasured her with hours of foreplay, it's time to punish her with some expert thrusting.

In the missionary position, her legs wide and beckoning, keep your concentration and thrust as follows:-

9 shallow 1 deep

8 shallow 2 deep 

7 shallow 3 deep

etc until 1 shallow 9 deep

and then reverse.

9 deep 1 shallow

8 deep 2 shallow etc.

Great for prolonged ecstasy and massages nearly all the erogenous zones of the penis and vagina.

2. EXPERT FOREPLAY

Stretch the skin on the pubic bone and just above the clitoris toward the navel whilst stimulating the

clit and labia with a well moistened finger or tongue. 

Alternate the stretch with pressing the skin in the opposite direction toward the clit once in a while.

Satisfaction guaranteed.

3. ON THE BRINK

As she approaches orgasm ease off a little and tease. 

Keep the stimulation to a level where her arousal is high but not towards the point of no return.

Conversely don't ease off to the point where arousal is ebbing or she is yawning. 

Repeat this as many times as you dare and she'll be screaming for release!

And what a release.

4. PENIS MASSAGE

Best done if at least semi erect.

Have partner lie down on stomach with eyes closed or blindfolded.

Gently rub cock back and forth across the back of the knee.

Grabbing ankle gently bring up towards knee creating crease and thrust in the crease. Do both legs. Massage bottom of the feet, calves and backs of thighs up to crease.

Next do same with the insides of elbows, then palms, forearms, upper arms and armpits.

Progress to nape of neck, collarbone, up and down spine etc.

Ask your partner to flip over and gently caress her forehead, eyebrows, eyes , nose , ears and chin with your cock.

Rub yor cock featherlight across her lips..........

From here on is left to your own interpretation though if you wish to continue the tease, nipples and breasts, abdomen , hips and beyond are all fantastic!

CONTINUED HERE..

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ONE OF THE MOST THRILLING AND EROTIC THINGS I EVER HEARD..

One of the darkest, most thrilling and erotic things I ever heard, was told to me by a friend a long time ago. 

She, a raven haired, caramel-limbed, horse riding beauty, and he a smouldering, guitar playing sex pot who cooked and sang, stoked up the fire and hosted wild parties, finally got it on one wintry Victorian, star-filled night.

She told me that when he eventually seduced her, wrapped her up and flung her on the bed, she apologised and confessed that she had her period.

She explained to me, over cheap wine and biscuits, that he had no issue with it and proceeded to go down on her with relish. A long time later, he looked up into her eyes with a face smeared with her menstrual blood and made love to her.

She told me this story many moons ago and I've never forgotten it. It thrilled me to the core and lodged something deep within me, evoking my own pagan, mysterious, dark and spiritual self. It spoke of carnal desire, lust - worship.

When we approach our lover with fervent wonder and devotion, it takes away all shame and guilt. A love of nature, a sense of awe and a respect for life and self - when transmitted to a lover - is transcendental.

You don't have to follow the Germaine Greer test to achieve it, but deeply enthusiastic sex pays homage to your lover, and thereby bestows the ultimate gift of self respect.

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ESSAY: SEXING UP THE KIDS

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Men Can't Help Themselves!

I've been reading Bettina Arndt's 'What Men Want in Bed' - a book revealing men’s sexual desires, needs and cravings. I have long admired Arndt's writing and wholeheatedly agreed (who doesn’t) that men are horny beasts and women, being less sexually driven, can't always satisfy that constant craving. This can lead to power issues, arguments, hurt feelings, affairs, blah blah blah.

Bettina stated in a recent Age article,* “We hear constantly about men in trouble over sex. Men in trouble for not keeping their trousers zipped, for groping and harassing women, men caught out looking at pornography, or gazing at women in the wrong way. But what we never hear about is men's restraint, the remarkable stoicism of current generations of heterosexual men who cop it sweet, despite their immense frustrations.”

‘Remarkable stoicism’? I think that’s precisely where the horn really got up my goat. As much as I agree that men have a higher sex drive than women in general and as much as I’m all for women saying ‘yes’ to their partners more often.... ‘remarkable stoicism’??? Please!

We grow and live in a world surrounded by temptation. All around us every day we can be tempted to stray from the principles that we individually and collectively construct. It might be a momentary urge to steal something beautiful, an anguished desire to smack your child or many more darker urges. Who of us wouldn’t for example, want to hurt, maim or even kill a person who injured a loved one? I ask these questions because it is my closest held belief that we are all capable of the same things. The most depraved action of another human is inside us all if the circumstances configure themselves to allow our particular nature to act likewise. We are all human together and all connected by our nature and spirit. It is this that gives us empathy.

Discipline and love give us the ability to reign in our rampant nature and steer a course through life that is true to our values. As a parent, I feel that it is my responsibility to encourage my children to discipline themselves to not overeat, not watch to much TV, not be mean or bully or violent. In other words, not to do what they naturally want to do but little by little, teach them to discipline themselves to be good people, to respect themselves and others. They learn this most effectively by being given love freely and seeing love around them.

Arndt asserts that a man’s urge to cheat on his partner is “hardwired - yet most men find ways of ignoring that itch, or diverting it into harmless pursuits like looking at pornography.” I would suggest that we are all hardwired to behave badly. The reason we are living this reality is to strive for our most honest and true expression of love. By remaining “remarkably stoic”, Arndt makes men out to be all fucking, raging beasts held in check only by stern, tight lipped mother/lovers.

If men are complaining to Bettina Arndt about their lack of sex within committed relationships, maybe they’re just shit lovers. Maybe they are lazy, self obsessed, uncommunicative, not tuned in to their lover’s needs, not evolving and being the best partner they can be. Arndt says, “ The overwhelming majority wanted to be faithful and were succeeding, even though there may have been a lapse along the way - a one-night stand at a conference, a few weeks of illicit pleasure, or even an affair lasting months or perhaps a year or two. But nothing compared with the many years of restraint.”

“Restraint”? Come on Bettina!!! We are all to some extent held in restraint and remain so because of our own discipline and the laws that demand it. We restrain from speeding, eating with our mouth’s open, farting in public, getting too drunk, killing each other, “groping and harassing women” and a million other things. I would have thought that remaining true to a monogamous relationship would be a restriction that a person who is committed to love would hold in high regard. It might take work, discipline and soul searching, but to suggest that men basically can’t help it and we should pity them for it is ludicrous.

It reminds me of the argument that says women should not go back to a guy’s place with a gutful without expecting to be raped. Men can’t help themselves after all. The thing is, even if he can’t restrain himself, he’s still an arsehole.

*'Lust for Life' Bettina Arndt August 21, 2011 The Age Opinion
http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/lust-for-life-20110820-1j3ed.html

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