COMMUNICATE YOUR DESIRES
Getting what we want in bed isn't always easy. We don't want to hurt our lovers feelings by saying the wrong thing but we don't want to put up with poor technique either.
Body language too, is not always easily read by even the most sensitive lovers. These tips will ensure that your lover is an expert in pleasuring you.
Body language too, is not always easily read by even the most sensitive lovers. These tips will ensure that your lover is an expert in pleasuring you.
1. Always use positive reinforcement - be emphatic about the things your lover is doing right.
2. Just as you groan loudly and deliciously when things are going well, tone it down when things are going cold.
3. If you're really not enjoying your lovers ministrations, gently remove their hand/face/whatever and do it yourself with them watching.
4. If there's something you love and your lover has no idea, lead them - if you love your hair pulled, guide their hand there and squeeze.
5. If you like your bottom slapped, lean over and assume the bad girl/boy position.
6. Leave a lot of hints - hire a movie where the characters engage in the sort of play you like, encourage your partner to read the sort of erotica or watch the porn that you like.
7. Whatever you do, don't fake your orgasm or you'll never get what you want.
8. Make sex a regular part of conversation. Discuss articles and issues, talk about your body and it's responses, play erotic games - whatever - just make sexuality relevant to your lives.
9. Practice dirty talk. Start by complimenting your lover throughout the day on things you like about them. For example, 'Your arms look so sexy in that T-shirt', ' I love your arse', 'Watching your lips move when you eat that strawberry makes me really hot' - that kind of thing.
10. Move on to sending texts about what turned you on when you were making love the night before. 'That thing you did with your tongue really tipped me over the edge', 'I came so hard last night I still can't concentrate', 'I can still taste you'. You'll soon establish the type of language that hits the spot.
11. Once that's established, you'll have no trouble ramping it up in the bedroom in the heat of the moment - ' Your cock makes me so hot', 'I want to fuck you so hard', 'faster - harder'.......What sounds weird out of context can be the spark that ignites a firestorm in context.
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