This workshop never ceases to amaze, excite and remind me that the act of love too often falls within the mundane, repetitive, lazy realm of work and duty rather than the creative, sensual, slow dance of worship, love and delight.
Layla, our tantric teacher of immeasurable talents, reminds us that lovemaking, like all undertakings, is primarily a frame of mind and then - a reflection of that mindset.
Whilst sex is the most intimate act that two people can perform together physically, it should also be an opportunity to share the other part of ourselves that is in shadow, hidden and fiercely protected by our more fearful aspect.
Instead of rolling towards each other at the end of a hard day and going through the motions, or ripping the clothes off and passionately screwing a one night stand, take some deep breaths, shake off the stresses of the day and the constructs of expectation, and truly look at each other eye to eye.
It sounds a bit new age and hippie, and it probably makes you want to giggle and smirk, but that's because, deep down, you recognise that in truth, looking deeply into another's eyes can make you feel more naked, more vulnerable and more undressed than any crazy night of wild, out-there, rampant, no-holes-barred sex can.
Bringing the sex act toward a goal of deep connection and worship of the life force, is the primary focus of tantra. It doesn't have to reside within the realms of occultism or freaky, hippie shit - just as bondage doesn't have to be for gimps and friends of Zed. (Sorry, a reference there to my favorite scene in Pulp Fiction - "Zed's dead baby, Zed's dead.").
Unveiling our innermost being, opening our heart to another and then entering into the delights of lovemaking, is the first step we need to take to really expand our repetoire of sexual skill so that we can begin to learn how to really 'thrill a man' and ultimately, thrill and honor ourselves as women, lovers and creators.
We've announced new dates for the 'How To Thrill A Man Part 1' workshop and would love to see you there. You can book here but spaces are limited so book early.
'How To Thrill A Man Part 2' gives you complete and explicit instruction on the techniques of penis massage.
It's an event you won't want to miss!
It's an event you won't want to miss!
